What causes low self-esteem?
If we do not live a happy and fulfilled life then we need to seek it. Low self-esteem, more often stems from how we ourselves see ourselves. Experiences from childhood or adolescences have affected and may have distorted the image we have of ourselves. Common causes of low self-esteem is abuse (physical, verbal, psychological) and strong criticisms suffered as children from our parents. It may also have resulted from some experience that made us ashamed or even felt ridiculed as children or as adults. Some of these causes in combination with others create a feeling of low self-confidence and low self esteem.
Consecuenses of low self-esteem
People with low self-esteem are usually hypersensitive, shy, feel rejected by others, find it difficult to make decisions, be aggressive, scream for attention and constantly seek confirmation of their value from others. Another characteristic of people with low self-esteem is trying to copy and imitate others who feel successful. People with low self confidence / self-esteem are characterized by some of the following:
- Low expectations from life.
- Avoiding challenges.
- Disturbances in concentration, sleep and nutrition.
- Lack of social skills.
- Difficulty in social interacting and feelings of loneliness.
- Neglect basic personal needs.
- Neglect of physical appearance.
- Excessive preoccupation with what others think of them.
- Excessive concern over anyone being annoyed because of them.
- Anxiety and often feelings of frustration.
- Difficulty accepting compliments.
- Lack of confidence in their personal opinions.
- Difficulty interpreting honesty.
- Focus on the negative aspects of a situation.
- Feelings of inferiority and insecurity.
How can we strengthen our confidence and self esteem?
The first step towards improving self-esteem is the acceptance of our self, with our strengths and flaws. Nobody is perfect and we all have aspects of our personality or appearance that we could improve. We need to live our lives with zest and courage in order to fight and evolve for the better. Loving our flaws and imperfections is an integral part of the unique person who is you.
Positive Thinking! You need to stop believing the worst about ourselves and our abilities. To be attractive and believe that we can deal with everything!
We must take personal responsibility for our own behavior. We need to believe in something big - Our life has higher purpose. We must have ambitions. Avoidance of people or situations that are negative for our confidence, individuals who doubt us, our actions and our abilities.
We have to identify things we like to do and are usually good at. Everyone has at least one talent in a unique way.
The most important of all for success is to love ourselves and always believe in ourselves. Our self should be our best friend. Actual confidence means that you treat yourself with love and acceptance.
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